RULES
Here’s the rules for our parties, please have a read through and share with your partners:
House rules:
1. Dress to impress, no shorts or T-shirts (unless part of a costume), feel free to bring different things to change into during the evening, sometimes a robe is very handy.
2. No body or face paint! this can make a real mess as you get sweaty and rub it all over the bed sheets.
3. Non-alcoholic drinks are available all night, BYO other drinks. Be careful with the alcohol, consent gets blurry when you are drunk.
4. No drugs before or during the party.
5. Smoking/vaping outside only. There are mints on the table for after…
6. The kitchen, dining and lounge are play-free break out zones
7. Tidy up after yourselves, there are bins for cans/bottles under the table and bins in the rooms for condoms and associated rubbish.
8. There is one private room, this room is for people that would like a more intimate setting, if the room is in use, then please move on, all other rooms are for your viewing pleasure, if you want exclusive play you can make it clear that no one should join you. All doors must remain open at all times
9. Please be mindful of others that may want to play, once you are done, please leave the space or make room for others, the rooms and toys are for all to enjoy. There is toy cleaner for house implements and wipes for the crosses.
10. Safe sex! This is a safe sex event, please use the condoms that are provided or bring your own, it is expected that these must be worn to ensure the safety and well-being for all casual sexual encounters.
Swinger/Exclusive party rules
11. Don’t be a dick! Read the room, don’t be pushy, check in regularly. Things can change and that is ok.
12. Closely followed by no means no, or even better yes means yes! Consent is sexy, make sure you have it before joining in. And remember it can be revoked at any time. Communicate clearly to remove any doubt.
13. You are under no obligation at any time, if you just want to come along and soak up the atmosphere, or chat to likeminded people then that is perfectly fine. Equally if you find yourself in a situation where you are not entirely comfortable, it is ok to end it.
14. Make sure you know and follow your own rules as a couple. Communication is key. Check in regularly.
15. If you have paid as a couple, you must arrive and leave as a couple, no exceptions.
16. Single guys, this is not a free for all, this is a sex event for couples, you must get to know the couples to be invited in, please make an effort to talk and meet both half of the couples.
17. For men, no solo masturbation, it is seen as non-consensual and can feel creepy, especially if it's done without the consent of others. However, when all parties consent, it can be interpreted as a type of voyeurism.
18. There are some fun things to try in the kink zone and BDSM dungeon, have a play around, try something new. Just remember to take it easy if it’s your first time with that kind of play and check in regularly with your partner.
19. Please be quiet when watching, it is disruptive to those involved with people standing around laughing and talking about their weekend, respect the space and others in it.
20. We use the traffic light system as our house safe word system.
“Green” means "yes I love it",
“Orange” means "slow down / pause / I need a breather"
“Red” means "Stop now!"
Red overrides any other pre-negotiated safe word
Kink Party Rules
20. Don’t be a dick! Read the room, don’t be pushy, check in regularly. Things can change and that is ok.
21. Closely followed by no means no, and only yes means yes! Consent is key, make sure you have it before touching others or joining in. And remember consent can be revoked at any time. Communicate clearly to remove any doubt.
22. You are under no obligation at any time, if you just want to come along and soak up the atmosphere, or chat to likeminded people then that is perfectly fine. Equally if you find yourself in a situation where you are not entirely comfortable, it is ok to end it.
23. We use the traffic light system as our house safe word system.
“Green” means "yes I love it",
“Orange” means "slow down / pause / I need a breather"
“Red” means "Stop now!"
Red overrides any other pre-negotiated safe word
24. We align most closely with the P.R.I.C.K framework, with emphasis on the personal responsibility.
Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink
PRICK makes it clear that:
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A. All participants share an equal responsibility to be reasonably aware of the risks involved in the proposed activity.
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B. Informed means (or implies) that you understand what is about to happen - risks and all.
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C. The idea being that if you take personal responsibility for yourself and you're informed, now you can truly consent.
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25. Please be quiet when watching, it is disruptive to those involved with people standing around laughing and talking about their weekend, respect the space and others in it. Please do any required negotiation in the common areas if others are in the space you intend to use.